Do we really need BIG FAT WEDDING?

Hey! Save the date darling, I'm getting married this year. His family came over and agreed for our marriage, my best friend excitedly told me. Wow, what a heartfelt feeling babe, congratulations! I'm coming over to see you in an hour, I can't wait, I screamed in enthusiasm. The girl was on cloud nine as her dream was about to come true. As best friends met she started telling everything about both families' rendezvous at the cafe and their agreement for the engagement and wedding. Eventually, the dates were also decided.

Soon,the wedding preparations started as the wedding date was near and had so much work to be done from booking banquet hall, making list of guests, food, dresses, and other miscellaneous items, choosing and printing of wedding cards, to buying clothes, jewellery, sandals, make-up items. Wow! Girls crave for new clothes, sandals and make-up every-time.  Now the turn was to buy items from the smallest things to the most luxurious things which was to be gifted to boy's family in the name of ritual.
Yes, my friend was happy indeed as she was going to marry the guy whom she wanted to from her college days.
Gradually, wedding day was approaching and pre-marriage functions began to start from spinster party, haldi ceremony, mehandi ceremony to the big day.
Spinster party was organized before a week of the wedding day by us which was a big surprise to her. We were 8 girls who gathered and planned this surprise where we 5 were

from the same college and other 3 were her childhood friends. It was a total fun day. I really had this much of fun after a long time.The party began with cutting of cake with her picture on it. It further continued with dance, singing and other performances, eating food. Ah!the best part of every party.
Finally, the day arrived when my soul friend appeared in red bridal lehanga and she looked gorgeous, stunning and much more beautiful than any other day in her life since the time I know her. Guests started to appear and we're served with snacks and dinner. Sometime later, Baraat entered in the hall and groom stepped out of his white Honda Accord which was covered with bunches of flowers and he was in golden sherwani. He was looking handsome but lesser than my sister. Ahaan! I must say, they both complimented each other and looked like made-for-each other Jodi.
When baraat entered, I observed aunty was gifting gold chain and earrings to her mother-in-law and gifts to other baraatis. Now, the couple got married following all the rituals. Relatives started giving blessings to the newly married couple. That day, I got to know that she had been gifted car also apart from other items including refrigerator, washing machine, bed, sofa set, dining table, utensils, and other things.
By God's grace, everything wrapped up nicely and our bride went away with her dream man.

Although, uncle and aunty gifted too much to the groom's side because they could afford it but I was left with a few questions in my mind and I kept asking a few questions to myself but still left unanswered.
Is it necessary to give your daughter dowry in the name of tradition and rituals?
Isn't an educated girl alone is enough?
Though it was a love marriage, still they were given a lot of dowry, Why?
Can't we make wedding easy and simple?
Is this the criteria to judge the status of both the families?
What standards are we setting for others?
I am still left unanswered though in my opinion, we should make wedding easier for ourselves and for others as well. Dowry system must be abolished as an educated, well behaved girl is a gift herself and dowry and expenses on marriages has weaken the roots of our society. The loan which is borrowed has to be paid only by the families and not by the guests who are attending it. So, please one must think wisely.


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